Is it ok to mail an invitation to your child's place of employment?

by Cy
(Charleston, SC)

My daughter is graduating from high school and works part time. She has a close relationship with the ladies she works with. Is it OK to send a group invitation to the business if you do not know everyone's address? Or do they need to be mailed separately?

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Thanks for getting in touch.

Firstly congratulations to your daughter!

The etiquette is normally to give each person their own invite. Clearly you can decide what you want to do.

Can I ask if you are inviting them along without partners. If that is the case a general 'works' invite may succeed.
If you are inviting your daughters colleagues partners perhaps individual invites work best.

I would add purely personally that I would write individual invites but have them handed directly to each person at work.

I hope this helps you decide on your own solution. However if you want to come back for clarification please feel free to do so.

Regards

Jane

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Invite question
by: Anonymous

Hosting our nieces graduation party at our home. Should we of gotten an invite? I know it not relative but would be nice to receive?

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Thanks for getting in touch. What a nice touch, hosting your niece's party is a wonderful thing to do.

I can only give a purely personal comment here. I would not expect to receive an invite as everyone knows I will be at the party. I would expect a big thanks and a bonus would be a thank you note. I hope your niece thanks you appropriately.

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Colleen

Am I allowed to request "No Bluejeans or Shorts" of my family at my sons Law School Graduation?


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Many thanks for contacting us.

There is no etiquette question as such here. The question of dress code is entirely up to you.

On a personal note only, if I felt that I wanted a certain standard of dress that excluded blue jeans etc I would just do it. I would word it politely but firmly.

If you are using a particular venue they may have a dress standard that you can refer to.

Let me know if you need any more help here!

Regards

Jane

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Addressing Announcement Etiquette
by: Anonymous

How do you address an announcement to a relative with a spouse in memory care?

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Thank you for getting in touch.

I am afraid there is no best way of addressing the Announcement. Purely personally I would probably address the Announcement to both your relative and their spouse. However I would try and find out first, if possible, what they would prefer. You might know someone who is close to them and can advise?

I am sorry I cannot give a definitive answer.

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when parents are divorced which name should be printed first?

How do you know which parent should be listed first?



One more question if anyone knows....

How do you state that the meal is being paid for by graduates parents?


Thank you,


Trish


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A tricky one. In these cases I would be tempted to use the father's full name and then the full mother's name. I would let them know in advance.

On the meal issue you should be able to word the invitations saying that a meal is included. You could say that the meal is included courtesy of (the parents). On a personal note I would take the chance to publicly thank my parents for paying for the meal as part of all the other things I would be thanking them for at the party. For example you may be having a cake and that gives a chance to say a few words.

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Invitation Etiquette

Is it o.k. to send a party invite in the same envelope as the graduation announcement?


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Should be fine.

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Do you still invite?

by HLS
(Ohio)

I am planning a large formal event for this spring. During the course of casual conversation/email exchanges, I have had people on my "guest list" tell me they could not come to the event. Invitations don't go out for about 2 more months.

Do I send these people invitations, even though I know for certain they cannot come?



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This is a hard call. I certainly would want them to know they were invited and we did really hope they could attend. How you cover that is probably quite personal and depends on your relationship with them.
You could tell them they will be invited as you value them as friends. You know there is 2 months till the invites go out so you hope their arrangements change. When the invites go out they can let you know if they can come. Particularly if they have only told you casually they cannot attend this also removes the chance they were mistaken about their plans. Personally I would add a personal note to the invites explaining that they may have told you they could not attend but you are inviting them in the hope that things have changed.

I hope this hleps, however please let me know if there is more you need.

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Annoucements and Invitations in the Same Envelope

Is it proper to send College Graduation Announcements and the Party Invitation in the same envelope?



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Thanks for getting in touch. Congratulations to the graduate. There is nothing to stop you doing this. Good luck with all your graduation celebrations

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PROPER STEPS (WAY)TO PUT ALL STUFF IN GRADUATION CARD AND SEND OUT?

What is the corect order for the graduation announcements envelope items? I have 2 different envelopes, tissue paper stuffing, the graduate's photo, response card, open house card, mailing stickers and address labels. I am not sure where to put what the proper way. Thank you for your help.


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My graduation announcement etiquette page has all the details you need.

The envelope should be addressed by hand in a blue or black envelope. That gives a real personal touch.

The outer envelope is the mailing envelope and should be formal. Example:

Mr and Mrs F Ferguson
2 Ayr Road
Chessington, Washington 65432

The inner envelope holds the announcement and any graduation picture. It should be addressed informally such as Aunt Mary.

Put your card in the card holder. Put the announcement in the smaller envelope with folded edge inserted first. The announcement front faces the flap. This envelope is placed in the mailing envelope with the flap facing the mailing side.

Add your tissue paper and you have a complete package. If you have an envelope seal then that is a great touch.

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Tara

by Tara Sies
(Peebles, OH)

My daughter has been attending college since she was 15 for high school and college credits, therefore, she will be graduating from 2 places receiving her high school diploma and her associates degree. The high school graduation was May 30th and the college graduation is June 12. We are having the party in mid-end of July. We have high school announcements to send out with the party invitation. Is it proper to include a note of her achievements and graduation from the college? Also,is it ok to mail the announcements including the party invitation since they will be mailed after both graduations are over?



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First off congratulations to your daughter, to graduate from high school and college is fabulous. Great idea to announce all the details in one announcement and to include the invites and announcements in the same envelope.

I hope you have a great time!

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Parent of graduate

When should I mail "save the date" reminders for a high school graduation?


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As soon as you know the date I would get them out. I do like to get everything booked well in advance, bearing in mind that I will send the invites out 6 to 9 weeks before the event.

However if you have an open house party you may be more relaxed in terms of timescales.

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Invitation Etiquette

by Graduate
(USA)

Invitation etiquette question....our graduation open house will be 3 weeks after graduation. Is it okay to enclose the open house invitations in the graduation announcement? My husband wonders if we should send a "reminder" note or make a reminder phone call the week before. I say it would be rude, but we need another opinion. Your help is needed!


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Since it is an open house graduation party then it is fine to send invitations with announcements.

To cut down on possible reminders you may want to make it simple for people to reply either accepting or declining the invite.

I would feel happy to do reminders but would do that by making a friendly phonecall.

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Sister as host of graduation
by: Cyndi

My sister is graduating with her Doctorate. I am hosting her graduation, and she has asked me to handle the details. I was wondering if it is proper etiquette to send an announcement and invitation to the doctoral committee?

Thank you for hosting and maintaining this site. Your information has been very helpful.


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Many thanks for getting in touch. Your comments are very much appreciated!

There is no real etiquette question here. Inviting the doctoral committee to the graduation party is a wonderful thing to do.

Purely as a personal opinion, if this group were the committee that awarded your sister's Doctorate then they will probably not need an announcement but will certainly appreciate the invitation.

Given their position I would consider a personal thank you note from your sister to each of them which you might put in with the invite.

Congratulations to your sister and I hope you have a wonderful time celebrating her achievement.

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Using double envelopes

When sending out invitations for an open house graduation party/BBQ, do I need to use double envelopes? And if not do I still have to hand write the address?


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To be strictly correct you should follow the etiquette on our etiquette page and do the envelopes and write adresses by hand.


However many families are fairly relaxed about the etiquette for open house parties. You may wish to use your own judgement here.

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Sending Graduation Party Invites Separate

by Kira
(Kansas)

I have decided not to have my graduation party on the same day of graduation since I have cousins graduating from high school that same weekend. I have decided to have my party almost a month later since I won't actually be graduating until I finish my internship, but I still get to walk. Do I send the graduation party invitations in the announcements or send them separate since my party is at a later date?

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First off congraulations on your graduation.

Although it is not strictly etiquette, there is nothing to stop you putting them in the same envelope. If on a budget you can save money by sending them at the same time. Either way you do it is just fine.

The later date for the party should be fine if they are sent together. You certainly would be giving them more than enough notice about your party date!

Personally I would send them at the same time but take a note to confirm attendance closer to the party date.

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including picture in college graduation invite

by Bree
(CO)

Can you include a picture with a college graduation invitation or is it just for high school?


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Thanks for contacting me.

A photograph is great at all stages, including college graduation invitations!

I hope the graduate has a great time.

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HELP: Question about return address etiquette for grad school commencement invitations

by Proud Wife
(Georgia)

Question: How should the return address read for my husband's doctoral commencement invitations? Do I print his name with no title? Do I print a name; should I only include a return address? Do I include my name? HELP!


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First off congratulations to your husband!
The return address could be to the person who is dealing with the RSVPs. If that is you then your name would be just perfect.
You will know how the invitations are worded. Perhaps the invites are worded as being from you or your husband. The return address should fall into line with this. Perhaps you have even added RSVP to a particular person.
Many institutions do not feel happy about qualifications being used before the graduation ceremony so if the returns are to your husband it may be better to use his name without the title.

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Just what I needed
by: Proud Wife

Thank you for your guidance! You were a world of help! Keep up the wonderful job!

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Graduation Party RSVP

by Tracy
(Fort Worth, tx)

I am preparing my daughter's high school graduation/dinner invitations. We are on a pretty tight budget. I am including a phone number and an email address for RSVP replies in the graduation celebration announcements for my daughter. With the exception of those do not have cell phone/email, would it be considered poor etiquette to forego return postage on the RSVP envelopes?


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First off congratulations to your daughter on her graduation.

Thanks for contacting me.

I'm afraid the normal thing is to include return postage on the return envelopes, which does not mean you have to do it.

However perhaps there is more you can do to be sure of your budget. I would be sure everyone we know had a cell phone except some elderly relatives, can you find out who does not have a cell phone?

You may be able to find out who is on e-mail.

I do hope that this way you may end up with a small number of people who would reply by mail. That way you can decide on including postage or not.

I do hope your daughter thoroughly enjoys her graduation celebrations!

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Inside of the invitation

by Sandra
(Tulsa, Oklahoma, USA)

So, my graduation invitations are pre-made in a fashion that has been used by my school for the last 20 years. All of the information is printed on the front (location, time, etc.), but the inside of it is absolutely blank, and I'm not sure if I'm supposed to write something there, or if it would be rude to just leave it blank and just insert the little name card. HELP!


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First off, congratulations on your graduation.

You will have satisfied the graduation etiquette requirements with the invites you have. If you are in doubt you can check on our main invitation etiquette page. In terms of any additions you might like to add inside the invite that would be a personal choice. Perhaps you could check with other graduates and find out what they are doing.

Everyone who receives an invite will just be delighted to be involved in your special event!

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Ms Melissa Hardberger

Do you write the names of the guests on the inside envelope?



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No need to do this, the invitations will have the names.

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mailing labels

Hi, I am sending out a box with my invitation in it due to an orchid being attached to the invitation so extra padding is required. Do I hand address the mailing labels or can these be printed out from my computer? Do I put my return address on the same mailing label in the upper left hand corner or a separate address on the box? Thank you for your time.

Regards,
Kathell



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This does sound like a wonderful way to invite guests, I am sure they will really appreciate everything you are doing.

The strict etiquette is to have handwritten addresses with the return address on the back. Good luck!

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change of time insert

I had invitations printed up for an event where the timing has to change. How can I word an insert card that tells guests about the change of time?



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Simple wording is always best like "Please Note the change of time to...."

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photo size

Is there a proper size photo that should be sent ?



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No real etiquette question here. Probably best to speak to your photograher and they will give you the options on size that fit in your envelope.

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College Announcements - Return Address

by Stella Gold
(Texas)

Our Son has been living and working in New York and will be graduating college this May. If we are sending out the announcements do we put his NY address as the return address or our Texas address?

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Many thanks for getting in touch with us. The return address could best be where you want them to go to. Perhaps you need to decide how they can best be handled. If your son will handle the returns properly then NY would be fine. If you feel you need to handle them then Texas would be best.

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Envelopes

by Tracey
(Little Rock, AR)

I have a question. My daughters graduation invitations came with two envelopes; one larger than the other. I need to know do I put anything on the outside of the one that will go inside the other?

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Many thanks for contacting us. The usual way of filling the main invitation envelope from the bottom up should be Invitation, Reply Envelope and Reply Card. Worth checking with your supplier but it could be the smaller envelope is your reply envelope which could be addressed.

Good luck and congratulations to your daughter.

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Karin

My daughter is graduating High School and my son is graduating 8th grade. We are planning a party for both together as we would invite all the same people so it seems silly to do it twice in a short period of time. My question is how should I write out the invitations? One invite with both names? Or two invites ? Any suggestions?

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There is no real etiquette question here so I can only offer a personal thought. I would use one invite as it is the same party. I would put the elder child's name first as the younger one will have their own High School graduation party at a later date.

This is only a personal opinion!

Congratulations to both your daughter and son.

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Postage Stamp on Reply Card?

by Robin
(Palm Beach, FL)

Must I include a postage stamp on the RSVP card?



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Many thanks for getting in touch. You do not say what the event is however it is your choice. I do as I feel it gets the replies in that I need without delay.

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List of everything that should be sent?

There is so many different things to put inside. I am sending graduation announcements. There is an announcment card two envelopes, seals and return adress labels, what things go where??



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The information you need is right in the middle of our page Graduation Announcement Etiquette. If you need more just let me know.

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Graduating later
by: Anonymous

I am going through my university's graduation ceremony this June, but am taking an extra term and will finish my degree in December.

Pictures will make it look like I'm graduated to my Facebook friends and my parents' Facebook friends.

What do I do about grad announcements in this situation.

THANK YOU!

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Thanks for contacting me and sending in a great question!

Graduation Announcements are meant simply to describe what is really happening.

Can I check what your formal status is after the June ceremony. Do the University describe you as graduating in June or December?

For example wording could be, if you are graduating in June, "John Smith is graduating on 28 June 2014 from XYZ University and will formally complete his studies in December 2014."

If you are seen to be formally graduating on completion of your studies you might say "John Smith is attending Graduation on 28 June 2014 at XYZ University and will graduate in December 2014 on completion of his studies. "

Clearly you can post the actual details besides your facebook photos.

Please feel free to come back with more detail or further clarification.

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Proper etiquette
by: Slightly Silly

Hi! I've read through the comments but I can't seem to find anything that answers my question. I started college and then left to raise a family. After a long hiatus I returned to school. I am graduating in May and I feel a little embarrased to be honest. What is the proper etiquette for sending announcements or invitations in my situation? Should I send anything? I was thinking something along the lines of a family portrait with a card that would list all of our accomplishments, but to be honest I don't really know.


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Thanks for sending in a great question.

Congratulations in makng this brave step and graduating.

Strictly the etiquette is the same, with the same announcements and invitatons items.


What you do is still your personal choice.

In one sense you are the one who has put in all the hard work, gone back to studying and made it through to graduation. As a result you might want to have your moment of glory.

However you might want to include a family photo, perhaps with you dressed in cap and gown. The wording could be about your graduation but instead of the usual announcements from the parents you could word the announcement from your family.

Let me know if you need more help.

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????? are there applicable guidelines?/

is there a right or wrong way to handle announcements/invitations? When the Groom is graduating college and the wedding is two weeks later?
We would like to share both events. But what would be the proper way...????


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Thanks for getting in touch. This surely is a new one for me. I can only give a personal opinion here as I cannot find any guidelines.
Probably best to ask yourselves what the primary event is which is likely to be the wedding. In that case you could follow all wedding etiquette and also add that the invites are also to the graduation celebrations of (your fiance's name). I would probably think through how many guests would be there if it was a graduation party only. If that is not all of the guests you may feel that it really is a wedding.
Again on a personal note I would be concerned about the gifts side. I would need to work out how to handle guests who would buy a wedding gift and a graduation gift. I may make sure they know not to do that.

I am sorry I can't help any further here as this is a new one for me.

I do congratulate both of you and hope that you have the best time ever at your celebrations.

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Invites sent to everyone?

by Debbie
(Dallas)

If you know some family members will not be able to attend a graduation/graduation party because of where they live, should you still send them an invitation?



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If you know for sure they can't come then you might send an announcement and let them know you wanted to send an invite but understand they cannot make it. On a personal note I would talk to them about it. They might just decide they would come and then you can get an invite off to them.

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Graduation ettiquette

by Ann
(Texas)

I have chosen to not walk at my college graduation, I want my family and friends to know I have graduated, but also I need them to respect my wishes to NOT walk.

I want to send out invitations, but need to know how to tell them that I just wanted them to know I graduated?

no comments on why I should walk, I am not going to do it. Thank you.



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Thanks for contacting me. Answering just the part you require it does seem like the etiquette you require is for Garduation Announcements. You do need to be sure it is announcements you are sending and follow the etiquette for them. If you do mean to send invitations then let me know and we can think again.

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DIFFERENT LAST NAME OF GRADUATE & PARENT

by Charlotte Duvall
(Laurel, MD USA)

My grandson lives with us and his mother lives in another town. She has a different last name than my grandson. She would like to send announcements to her friends but the friends do not know her son's last name. Is it appropriate to put the mother's return address on the announcement.

My grandson's return address label will be on the front of the envelope. Where do I put the mother's name and return address?


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Congratulations to your Grandson on his graduation.

Thanks for contacting us, I hope I can give you the reply you need.

Your Grandson's mom could try to make sure the announcements wording covers the different names. If there is a return address then recipients would understand what was happening. It would seem better to use one return address only.

Please let me know if you wish any clarification, I will be very pleased to help in any way I can.

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kelli

Do the parents send the graduation invitations and use the home address as the return address--or does the student use his college apartment return address? ALso where does the foil seal go--on the outside envelope or on the inside one?



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On the address, if the invites are sent from the parents then their address should be used. If the invites are addressed from the student then they can choose the return address to use.


The seal goes on the inner envelope if you have one that contains the announcement.

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Graduation Save The Date

by maureen
(New York)

How far in advance should save the dates be mailed out for a graduation party?


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Thanks for contacting us.

Sending save the date cards out once you know the time and date of the graduation party is a good idea. Particularly if you have out of town guests this will help them plan their attendance.

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Graduation Invitation

Is it okay to invite your childs teachers to her high school graduation? She doesn't expect gifts from them, just wants them to see that she made it thanks to them.


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Sounds like a great idea! Congratulations to your child.

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Anna

by Anna
(New Kensington, PA)

What is the time frame to mail out a high school graduation party invitation? ie: 4 weeks?
Thank you!


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Many thanks for getting in touch.

6 weeks certainly gives your guests time to arrange to attend, buy a gift and plan flights (if required). 6 weeks would be good if you can do it.

4 weeks can work if everyone is local and there are no competing parties.

3 to 4 weeks can work just fine if you are having an open house party.

Without knowing your exact circumstances, you may find 4 weeks works for your graduation party.

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High school graduation

by sharon west
(Nashville, TN)

What do you do if your high school graduate is graduating during a work week but you want to have the party on the weekend. Do you send out 2 different invitations?


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Many thanks for sending in a great question!

Firstly congratulations to the graduate, I hope everything goes really well.

On your question, it certainly would avoid confusion if the ceremony and the party each have their own invites. That way guests can reply knowing that the events are on separate days, and which one they are saying they will attend (hopefully both).


You might want to consider how you handle gifts for those invited to both events.

I hope this reply helps, if you need further help please feel free to contact me.

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Invitation to employer.

Is it proper Etiquette to send a college graduation Invitation to your current employer?


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Great question!

There are no formal etiquette rules here so it is really your own choice.

Purely on a personal note I would think through how close I was to the employer, did they know the graduate well, are other people from work attending, are others at work inviting the employer to their child's graduation and would they fit in well at the event. Let me know if you have other points in favor/ against your employer attending!

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Group graduation party question

by Riki
(Evanston, WY)

We are very close with quite a few members of my son's graduating class. We are so close in fact that we (about 20 of us) decided it would be easier to hold one graduation party rather than try to do seperate ones and try to go to everyone elses. We've rented a location and everyone is sending their own invitation to friends/family. My question is, do we send "Graduation Annoucements" to the other families who will be holding the party with us? We obviously don't need to send them an invite to the party...but it seems like we should send them something "official" to acknowledge their involvement in our sons life. Thanks for suggestions!


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Many thanks for contacting me and congratulations to all of the graduates.

There is no real etiquette issue here so you are free to come up with something creative.

First off, sending them an announcement seems like a good idea. Perhaps you could consider personalizing it with a card which states that you are sending the announcement as a way of thanking them for being loving, positive and supportive people to the graduate, for example.

Purely on a personal note, I would happily do this for families we are close to. I would also consider if the other families would feel they should do the same or would be doing it anyway. You are close to this group so you will likely know how they will react.

If you wish to avoid gifts, it would be worthwhile covering your 'no gifts' policy.

I would be delighted to know any further thoughts you have.

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Graduation Invitations
by: Faye

I have received a number of invitations from my daughter classmates who are graduating with her. Is it proper etiquette to send an invitation to the parents of a graduate when that parent will be attending the event. We were told by our graduation committee that this was not proper. Has this etiquette changed.

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Many thanks for getting in touch. I am assuming you are referring to invites to the graduation ceremony.

The etiquette has not changed. Clearly the other parents have made a personal choice to send you the invite.
Purely personally I would feel that there is no real purpose to the invite as the parents are attending graduation anyway. I prefer to send a card to the other graduates.

Please let me know if you need more information!!

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inviting other graduates from your class
by: Monica

My question is this. I have a son that graduated in 2004. Back then we were told its not proper to send high school graduation invitations to parents of kids that are graduating with your class. I have son graduating now in 2015. Is it not proper to send to parents of kids graduating with my son?? Thanks!!

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Firstly, congratulations to your son.

In terms of invites, it is proper to send them to anyone you are inviting to your graduation party, including other parents.

The position is a bit different with announcements which are for people who care for the graduate but may be out of town or not invited to the party, for example.

However, there is nothing to stop you sending announcements to anyone you want. You will know the other parents and if they would like to receive one.

I hope this answers your question, if not please let me know.

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Father and Son graduating

I am offering a graduation party for my husband and my son, they are graduating on a different level, but I don't know how to word the invitation. It would be ok to ask for money as a gift? how to be polite by doing it?


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First off, congratulations to your husband and son.

On the wording, you could go with:

(Your name)
is delighted to invite you to the graduation party for (husband's name)
and (son's name).
I would be honored if you could attend.
Time/Date (details)
Venue (details)
RSVP (details)

For your gift policy there is no etiquette on asking for money so you would need to be sure how your friends would respond to your request. Just to give a suggestion on the wording, you might try something like "For those who wish to give a gift a financial contribution would help the graduates' with their next steps in life". On a personal note I would think hard before doing this.
You will know the benefit of the money and hopefully how your friends will respond to your gift policy.

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Graduation open house invitatios

If one is invited to an open house for a graduate, how should envelopes be addressed to guests? And is using only last name approriate or disrespectful?


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Open House invites have a more relaxed etiquette. Personally I would stick to formal etiquette for invites being mailed with full names and titles. However many are handed directly to recipients and will be informally addressed. Using only the last name would seem unusual but perhaps the persons title is included? If the invites are being handed out directly then an informal approach using the persons first name would seem fine.

To complete this one perhaps you could let me know if the invites are being mailed and if titles (eg Mrs, Dr etc) are being used.

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early graduation

by Chris
(new orleans, la)

My child will finish her high school studies in December and will move out of the area in January. We wanted to announce and host a graduation party. She will not officially receive diploma until May. What is the proper etiquette for this situation as we'd like to celebrate before she leaves town?


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Many thanks for getting in touch. Let me congratulate your daughter!

You can send announcements any time you wish. They simply have the factual details about when your daughter will graduate, if the actual day is not announced yet you could say May.

There are no issues for the party invites. You might choose to give some explanation for the early party which could simply be to tell everyone you are leaving town so wanted to have the party now.

I hope everything turns out well!

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Return Address Label

Graduation announcement which name is used the graduate or parent name on return address label?

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There is no need for return address labels with an announcement since no reply is normally required. If you are also inviting guests to a graduation party then you will have the name of the persons inviting guests to the party. The return address label contains their name. For example the party invites may be from the parents so the return address label also has their name on it.


I hope this answers your question.

Congratulations to the graduate.

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College announcements outer envelope for large families

by Leesa
(San Antonio tx)

How do you address the outer envelope for a college announcement when addressing to a family with 5 children?

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Thanks for getting in touch and congratulations to the graduate.

There is no real etiquette issue here. You can name everyone if you wish. You could use a spare envelope to write out all the names and see what it looks like.

It would be great to name each child but you might find that is not practical. A simple approach could work well here. For example "Mr J, Mrs F Simpson & Family" or "Mr & Mrs Simpson (& Family)".

I hope your graduation celebrations go well!

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graduation invite

Does the return address have to be hand written or can it be a sticker?

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I think the strict idea is to hand write them but for me a sticker is just fine.

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INVITING OTHER GRADUATES FROM SAME CLASS

MY DAUGHTER IS GRADUATING AND ARE YOU SUPPOSE TO OR NOT SUPPOSE TO SEND OTHER GRADUATING CLASSMATES GRADUATION INVITATIONS? I WAS ALWAYS TOLD IF THEY ARE GRADUATING TOO, YOU DO NOT SEND THEM AN INVITATION?

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Congratulations to your daughter.

There is no need to send announcements. I am assuming you are having your own graduation party for your daughter. Invitations would be required to all those, including class members, you are inviting to the party.

Let me know if the circumstances are different and I can amend my reply accordingly.

Thanks for contacting me.

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Return Address

When sending an invitation to a graduation open house, should the return address have the name of the parents who are throwing the party or the name of the graduate?

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First off congratulations to the graduate. The reply address should be to the hosts which in your case is the parents.

I hope your party goes very well.

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Pam

I am in the process of making a list for college graduation announcements. As the list continues to grow greatly I was wondering if it would be bad etiquette to send family members with grown children only one announcement such as Mr. & Mrs. John Doe and family or possibly add the names of the adult children as well on the envelope?

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Many thanks for getting in touch.

You can of course send one Announcement per household. It is your choice whether or not you include the names of adult children.

Purely personally I would take a view on the age of the adult children. If they are over college age and have moved back home, for example, I would send them their own Announcement.

Please feel free to reply with any further details you want to clarify.

Regards

Jane

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Graduation Help

by Kathy F
(Lincoln Arkansas)

I need to know when I can send out RSVP cards for my sons graduation and do I send them out with the Invitations? We have several family members that live out of sate and I am down to the Wire I have approx. 8 weeks until graduation.

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The RSVP Cards can go with the invitations and can go just as soon as you are ready, which can be now.

Please feel free to ask any supplementary questions you might have.

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Graduation, limited amount of seating at the last minute.

by Michelle Grumbles
(Austin, Tx)

Do you have any advice. How to write the polite., but only certain amount of ppl where given to our senior
Graduation, limited amount of seating at the last minute.

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Many thanks for getting in touch.

This is a problem faced by many people at this time. Luckily most people understand that you can only have immediate family at the Commencement Ceremony.
You can send announcements to all those who would want to know about the graduation. If you feel some may have wished to be invited to the commencement ceremony you could add a separate note explaining that you would have loved to invite them but you had to restrict invites to parents and siblings, for example.
You may be having a party and can invite those left out to that.

Let me know if this gives you the answer you need. If not I can help further!

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Address Party invite to Student or Parent?

by Kim
(MN)

My son wants to invite several friends from school to his graduation party. I have met these friends but I do not know their parents. My questions is whether I address the party invite to the student or to his parents, example: Mr and Mrs Smith and family or "Student" Smith and family?

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Many thanks for getting in touch.

If you are inviting the whole family then Mr and Mrs Smith and Family is good. If you are inviting the parents and only the friend of your son then it could be Mr and Mrs Smith and Ben, for example.

If it is just the friend then just their name.

I hope this gives you the answer you need.

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Invited?
by: Linda

When classmates give out invitations to other classmates that are just computer printed and gives all the information for the party does that invite include the whole family or is it only considered to be for the classmate?

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Thanks for getting in touch.

Although I would not be 100% certain I think the likelihood is the invite is for the classmate only. I would check with other classmates to be sure.

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Mom

My daughter is graduating from college should we send an invite to her boyfriends parents if we have never met them?

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I am afraid there is no real etiquette here to help.

Perhaps your daughter will be able to guide you.

Congratulations to your daughter.

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